Ducky Doolittle Dishes on Sex

Our mission at GetLusty is to end boring sex between couples, so who better to call upon to help us than Ducky Doolittle! She has worked extensively as a sex educator and author. Let's face it; she's awesome! We caught up with Ducky to ask her several questions about her work and inspiration. Check out her bio and the full interview below.

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More About Ducky

Ducky Doolittle is the author of Sex With The Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered. She has spent the last two decades working in the field of sexuality.

She is a certified emergency room Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Counselor and has trained with Planned Parenthood in comprehensive STD prevention and comprehensive & medically accurate sex education.

Ducky tours internationally, performing on campuses, medical schools, bachelorette parties, homeless youth drop-in centers, book clubs, church groups, sex shops and anywhere else she can gather a crowd. You can find her at DuckyDoolittle.com and on Twitter @Duckyduckdoo. Ducky also blogs regularly on Lipstick Stains on Your Pillow.

What we asked Ducky Doolittle (our interview)

* How did you get into sex blogging? Is it different from your other work in the field of sexuality?

Blogging for me is more than just about my work as a sex educator. There is plenty of sex content, but I also write about art, music, movies and my adventures. Where my work in sexuality is very focused on my audience and serving them, my blog is way for people to really get to know me as a person. If you are curious to know me, get on my blog and play with me.

* Why do you think having great sex is important? 

I think great sex is a luxury. Not everyone can afford it, and for a lot of reasons - be it emotional, physical or financial. I know this from personal experience; having grown up in poverty, homeless as a teenager, a former peepshow girl and having come out the other side of unwell relationships. These are all realities that can not be denied.

As a sex educator, I embrace these elements and respect them. But I also work hard to inspire people to find their joy. To assume it. Be it in sex or any other life skill. I want people to fuck hard, cook good food, manage money with grace and live lives that are fulfilling. It just happens that sex is the life skill that I am best at teaching.

* What, in your opinion, are challenges you see couples are facing today?

I think people get stressed out. They think they are very busy when in reality, time can be managed if you redefine your priorities. And I think it's very natural to fall into ruts when you are in long term relationships. Most of the things people complain about are very manageable once they acknowledge the issue. But it takes work.

* How do you measure a successful relationship? 

Are you smiling? When you think of that person and your interactions with them, are you smiling? That is the only question I ask you. It may sounds simple, because it is a simple measurement. But how you handle a bad relationship can be complex. When I look at any relationship, be it intimate, friendship or family, I ask myself, "Am I smiling?" If not, then I need to invest some time in caring for that relationship.

* GetLusty loves feminist porn, what's your favorite kind of porn? 

I like porn where I can see people are really loving what they are doing. There are specific actors I enjoy, like Belladonna and James Deen. (Oh my, we love Belladona by the way! Check her out on the left.) And there are certain producers who light me up, like Tristan Taormino and everyone at Kink.com.

* What's your favorite part about working in the world of sex?

I never stop learning. Ever. This keeps me engaged. I also love the people I meet and they stories they share with me.

*  What's next for you over the next 6-12 months?

I'm working hard to finish a book that is due. I am touring and presenting all over North America. And I just finished building a bondage bed. You know, for "research." :)