Podcast! Dr. Jallen Rix on Honesty for Deeper Love

Dr. Jallen Rix survived a strict, religious upbringing and ex-gay ministry. He wrote a book about it, and came out of the experience a more complete, honest person.

He's very secure in his sexuality and teaches others about how to realize their own sexual interests. How can monogamous couples have a more fulfilling love life? We talked with him about honest, loving experiences.

What we talked about:

• What brought Jallen here? 
• Why is it so important to be honest with your partner sexually? 
• Why did he write his wonderful book, "Ex-Gay No Way" and what's it all about, anyway?
• OK, so he's gay & poly. My husband is bisexual, is yours? Dr. Jallen answers how to integrate fantasy into your healthy relationship.
• How can couples interested in bi-sexuality but not in polyamory explore?
• What are different kinds of monogamy & why do they matter? 
• What's in the prospect for Dr. Jallen? What's next?

More about Jallen:

Speaker, author, and educator, Jallen Rix has come a long way to be a sex expert. Growing up as a Southern Baptist, he was taught that spirituality was heavenly but sexuality was from the devil. While obtaining a B.A. in creative arts and a minor in theology, he also went to great lengths attempting to change his sexuality from gay to straight in an ex-gay ministry- to no avail.

That experience set him on a journey of discovery that ultimately resulted in Jallen earning his Doctorate of Education in Sexology from The Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco, where he is now Associate Professor.

He pens the popular advice column, Sex Ed in Bed. As a sexologist, Jallen creates an accepting and safe environment that provides support, humor and insight for a wide variety of people to raise their awareness for a more positive and healthier sexuality. Learn more about Jallen Rix by reading his book, "Ex-Gay No Way." Follow him on Twitter @gaysexpert and subscribe on Facebook.

Podcast! Kitty Stryker Talks Consent in BDSM

Kitty Stryker is pretty wonderful. She's been working with sex workers for quite some time and her work is even transnational!

She's talked about sex worker rights from London to San Francisco. She now runs Cum & Glitter, a live sex show in San Francisco, that recently went Folsom-style for San Francisco folks.

We recently caught up with Kitty at CatalystCon last week. What we talked about:

• What is her new "Consent Culture" project all about?
• Why does she think BDSM needs more consent?
• What's wrong with FetLife policies around BDSM scenes? 
• What brought about Cum & Glitter?
• Why did she get into sex education & sex work?
• What's Cum & Glitter all about?
• What's next for Kitty?

More about Kitty:

Kitty Stryker is a geeky sex worker, Burner, rabid writer and feminist activist with one high-heeled boot in San Francisco, California and one in London, England.

In London, Stryker worked with the TLC Trust, an online organization connecting people with disabilities with sex workers experienced with emotional or physical limitations. She is the founder of the award-winning Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society, and was nominated by the Erotic Awards as Sex Worker of the Year for her charity and activism work.

Now back in the States, Stryker has been presenting Safe/Ward, a workshop on combating entitlement culture within alternative sexual communities, along with being the PR rep for the Bay Area Sex Workers Outreach Project promoting sex worker rights.

She has written for Good Vibrations, Filament, and Tits and Sass, built a social media strategy for Cleis Press, and consults with sex workers about their online presence. Additionally, she's performed for several pornographic sites and been interviewed for multiple documentaries. Read more from Stryker on her personal blog, Purrversatility. Also find her on Twitter @kittystryker and Facebook.

Sexpert? Can I Interview You?

GetLusty is all about recommending tools, tips and other active ways to improve your relationship and have better sex. Therefore, we wanted to invite participation from the sex education, psychology, psychiatry and sociology community. We've already interviewed nearly a dozen sex educators and therapists.

Learn from the best

How do world renowned sex educators, sexologists or sex therapists recommend you make love better? What are some best practices for improving our sexual experiences as couples? 

Are you a sexpert?

We invite sex educators, sex startup owners, sex workers, sex therapists and sexologists onto our podcast series to talk improving intimacy & empowering your sexual life. Haven't heard our podcasts? We've interviewed greats like Megan Andelloux, Shanna Katz and numerous others. They're on SoundCloud. A more complete list of sexpert interviews are available here.

Would you like to be featured to our growing international audience? Fill out the form below & a GetLusty rep will get back to you to schedule an interview with our Chief Lust Officer, Erica Grigg. Want to get in touch with her about business opportunities? E-mail her directly at erica@getlusty.com.

Maria Falzone Talks Sex Positive Parenting

We talk a lot about sex. Many of you are parents out there and you might be wondering how to talk to your kids about sex. I know many-a-child has been curious (including me at a young age), but their parents weren't there to talk about sex.

We've all had questions and we still have more questions. For example, how does one even broach the subject? How can we do it in a safe way without inducing shame and fear for our children? Why should parents teach their children about sex early? How early is too early?

Without further ado, what we talked about:

• How Maria got started as a sex comedian & lecturer 
• Why it's so important to talk to your kids about sex
• Saving your kids from sexual abuse through educating them about sex
• Start a dialogue with your kids about sex without them rushing in to have it
• What's next for Maria's sex education foundation (that brings sex educators to universities and cities across the USA)
• Why she wants to travel & spread the message

More about Maria

Maria Falzone is one of the most sought after speakers on safer sex at the college level. Each year colleges and universities invite her back to teach the essential rules to greater and safer sex. Unlike other lectures, Maria shares her personal story of shame and suffering about sex and how after contracting herpes from a friend she was forced to honestly look at her attitude about sex.

In Maria's words: "We live in a society where we get conflicting messages about sex. Our parents and Society tell us to wait. In the world of advertising sex sells. So we end up thinking that we should just know how to have sex. Parents spend good money for us to go to college to get an education so that we can graduate and go out there and get a good job. But when it comes to sex, which most of us are going to have, (hopefully more than once) we have little to no information. Some of us end up emotionally or physically scarred."

Find Maria on Twitter @mariafalzone, Facebook and her website, Sex Rules.

Interview Exclusive! Kristy Lin Billuni on Sexy Grammar

You would never have thought grammar could be sexy, usually it triggers the exact opposite response.

Kristy Lin Billuni, The Sexy Grammarian, convinced us other wise! We want to introduce you to the concept of sexy grammar and to do so we went straight to the source. Read on to find out how grammar can be sexy and what it can do for your relationship in our lusty interview with Kristy.

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As her editing business grew, Kristy Lin Billuni sensed parallels in her teaching work and her sexy roots. Writers liked her naughty grammar lessons and responded to the sexual metaphor she applied to the art of writing. Her clients helped her recognize that her unique combination of skills offered a fun and easy approach to writing. She embraced the idea and in 2003 launched Sexy Grammar. You can connect with The Sexy Grammarian on Facebook and Twitter.

Kristy has also taught a how-to class at Good Vibrations, danced at the world-famous Lusty Lady, developed sex health curriculum for Stanford Medical School, and posed for the infamous photographer Charles Gatewood.

What is Sexy Grammar and how did it start? 

Sexy Grammar is a stimulating way for adults to learn grammar rules and writing skills like when to use lay or lie and how to write an effective newsletter. It’s also the name of my company. I’m a teacher and a writer, and I help clients finish their writing projects. I’ve been at if for 10 years, but I haven’t always called my company Sexy Grammar.

The only subject I’ve been teaching longer than I’ve been teaching writing is sex. When my writing services company started growing, I began to see parallels in my teaching work. My writing clients loved concepts I brought from teaching sex: understanding climax in orgasm and plot and undressing sentences to their stark, nude cores. I also found that creatives, whose eyes glazed over at grammar lessons, got engaged when I used dirty words in my examples.

At the same time, I worried about my professional identity online. If you googled me in 2003, you might have read a story about my activist stunt to float the World’s Biggest Vulva down Market Street or you might link to my writing services website. I felt I needed to hide the sex expert-Kristy from my writing clients.

I’m grateful to author and longtime client Drew Banks for sharing his expertise as a marketing guru. Drew showed me that my integrated identity, which included the sex work and sex ed as well as the editing and teaching writing, was my most valuable asset. When I embraced the sexual metaphor in my writing approach and named my company Sexy Grammar, my business took off.

How can people use Sexy Grammar to enhance their love lives? 

Sex and writing are both about self-expression. I believe that the principles that help people have better sex--let loose, be specific, lubricate—can help people become better writers. Whether you practice these skills in bed or at the writing desk, you’re going to be more turned-on, engaged, and creative. I think great writers almost always make great lovers and vice versa.


What is your favorite part about working in the world of sex?

I’ve noted one common thread among the radically diverse people I've met working in sex education, sexy writing, erotica, and the sex industry. We’re all dedicated to creativity and self-expression. Those are values I love sharing, and they keep me motivated in my work with writers every day.

What's next for you (your business, practice) over the next 6-12 months?

We just launched a new brand look and website in August, and in 2013 Sexy Grammar will celebrate 10 years in business. We believe there’s never been a more exciting time to be a writer, so we’re also celebrating the worldwide web’s writing renaissance and its opportunities for writers everywhere to express themselves and find an audience.

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Would you like to join an amazing lineup and do an interview with GetLusty? E-mail rachael@getlusty.com to get started!

Ducky Doolittle Dishes on Sex

Our mission at GetLusty is to end boring sex between couples, so who better to call upon to help us than Ducky Doolittle! She has worked extensively as a sex educator and author. Let's face it; she's awesome! We caught up with Ducky to ask her several questions about her work and inspiration. Check out her bio and the full interview below.

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More About Ducky

Ducky Doolittle is the author of Sex With The Lights On: 200 Illuminating Sex Questions Answered. She has spent the last two decades working in the field of sexuality.

She is a certified emergency room Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention Counselor and has trained with Planned Parenthood in comprehensive STD prevention and comprehensive & medically accurate sex education.

Ducky tours internationally, performing on campuses, medical schools, bachelorette parties, homeless youth drop-in centers, book clubs, church groups, sex shops and anywhere else she can gather a crowd. You can find her at DuckyDoolittle.com and on Twitter @Duckyduckdoo. Ducky also blogs regularly on Lipstick Stains on Your Pillow.

What we asked Ducky Doolittle (our interview)

* How did you get into sex blogging? Is it different from your other work in the field of sexuality?

Blogging for me is more than just about my work as a sex educator. There is plenty of sex content, but I also write about art, music, movies and my adventures. Where my work in sexuality is very focused on my audience and serving them, my blog is way for people to really get to know me as a person. If you are curious to know me, get on my blog and play with me.

* Why do you think having great sex is important? 

I think great sex is a luxury. Not everyone can afford it, and for a lot of reasons - be it emotional, physical or financial. I know this from personal experience; having grown up in poverty, homeless as a teenager, a former peepshow girl and having come out the other side of unwell relationships. These are all realities that can not be denied.

As a sex educator, I embrace these elements and respect them. But I also work hard to inspire people to find their joy. To assume it. Be it in sex or any other life skill. I want people to fuck hard, cook good food, manage money with grace and live lives that are fulfilling. It just happens that sex is the life skill that I am best at teaching.

* What, in your opinion, are challenges you see couples are facing today?

I think people get stressed out. They think they are very busy when in reality, time can be managed if you redefine your priorities. And I think it's very natural to fall into ruts when you are in long term relationships. Most of the things people complain about are very manageable once they acknowledge the issue. But it takes work.

* How do you measure a successful relationship? 

Are you smiling? When you think of that person and your interactions with them, are you smiling? That is the only question I ask you. It may sounds simple, because it is a simple measurement. But how you handle a bad relationship can be complex. When I look at any relationship, be it intimate, friendship or family, I ask myself, "Am I smiling?" If not, then I need to invest some time in caring for that relationship.

* GetLusty loves feminist porn, what's your favorite kind of porn? 

I like porn where I can see people are really loving what they are doing. There are specific actors I enjoy, like Belladonna and James Deen. (Oh my, we love Belladona by the way! Check her out on the left.) And there are certain producers who light me up, like Tristan Taormino and everyone at Kink.com.

* What's your favorite part about working in the world of sex?

I never stop learning. Ever. This keeps me engaged. I also love the people I meet and they stories they share with me.

*  What's next for you over the next 6-12 months?

I'm working hard to finish a book that is due. I am touring and presenting all over North America. And I just finished building a bondage bed. You know, for "research." :)

Devi Ward on Tantra & Women's Sexual Healing

At GetLusty, we realize we don't talk about tantra much. But that certainly isn't because we don't love tantra. We just need to find people to help us do it better! Devi Ward is the perfect example of why we should all utilize tantric sex and meditation. Especially if you feel you need sexual healing, or you've experienced sexual difficulty, this is for you!

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What we chatted about

• How Devi used tantra for her own sexual healing
• Where is the root of sexual trauma (hint: many sexual trauma's happen everyday, so you've likely had to experience it)
• Real-life ways you can do to jump over the hurdles of your sexual traumas (without drugs)
• Some of the many benefits for trying Tantra
• What you can expect from her upcoming book on self pleasure for ladies
• What success means to Devi (namely, feeling sexual abundance)

About Devi

Devi Ward is an International Authentic Tantra Educator & Sensual Empowerment Coach. Devi has been on a path of Erotic Awakening and Spiritual Embodiment since 1993, studying meditation, holistic healing arts, and alternative forms of erotic expression. Devi has been a Professional Sensual Movement Artist since 1992.

Devi is the Founder of Feminine Emergence and creator of Sacred Erotic Dance™ ; a Movement-Healing modality that uses The 5 Core Pelvic Movements™, Authentic Tantra™ & Sensual Dance, to produce physical, emotional and spiritual healing in our relationship to sexual and sensual self-expression.

Her first book “Shake Your Soul Song! A Woman’s Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art of Self-Pleasure” is scheduled for release in October 2012. Follow Devi on Twitter @deviwardtantra and on Facebook.

Dangerous Lilly on Porn, Sex & Couples

We love showcasing individuals helping couples end boring sex. Dangerous Lily is doing just that! She's a sex blogger and educator, and we think she's making waves. So we asked her several questions about her current projects. Check out her bio and the full interview below.

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More about Lilly

Lilly is an eclectic sex blogger who blogs about anything ranging from relationships to sex toy education, throwing in the occasional racy self-portrait or brutally honest sex toy review and topping it all off now and then with OpEd pieces that sometimes turn into rants. She means well though, bless her heart. In addition to blogging on Dangerous Lilly, Lilly is the creator of e[lust], a monthly publication of blogger-submitted posts on everything about sex & relationships. Find her on Twitter @dangerouslilly.

* How did you get into sex blogging?

I was searching for weeks for a more reliable recommendation or description of a few sex toys that I was considering purchasing.

My prior 6 purchases had been major disappointments and the sites just didn't offer up the type of descriptions that I really needed. My search led me to eventually find a sex blogger who seemed to be just like me, except that she reviewed sex toys. She happened to own the items I was considering and I was able to ask her exactly what I needed to know. Back in 2008, sex toy reviewing wasn't at the over-saturation level that it is now. I wanted to review sex toys for the others like me out there; I also grabbed the opportunity to blog about my sex life and sexuality. It was very liberating for myself and my relationship.

* What's your favorite kind of porn?

My favorite porn tends not to be considered porn. I prefer true amateur stuff, the "home movie" variety, the self-shot girls. Tumblr is my gold spot these days.

* Why do you see a need in having great sex?

Great sex, and orgasms, release all sorts of happy, healthy hormones and chemicals in your body. Sex is good for your physical and mental health, whether it's partnered sex or solo sex.

* What, in your opinion, are challenges you see couples are facing today?

Society and the status quo. Too many people are too influenced by what they feel fits in with society's preset mores and standards, be it beauty or what you do in your bedroom or what your sexual preference is. Too many people think that if a man likes prostate play, he must be gay.

Too many people think that sex toys shouldn't be necessary, or they are intimidated/offended by them. I've talked to a number of men and women who are afraid to bring sex toys into the bedroom - it seems to be more prevalent in heterosexual, cis-gendered couples. The women are afraid that the man will feel like a sex toy is a personal insult to him, his performance, his penis size. The men are afraid that the woman will end up preferring the sex toy to them.

* How do you measure success?

Happiness and comfort.

* What's next for you over the next 6-12 months?

I would ultimately like to start making a living doing something sex-positive. I've been dipping my toe into being a consultant for smaller sex toy companies on things like business practice, social media, PR, affiliate programs, etc. I'd like to do a lot more of that. Anything, really, that involves spreading the word about sex toy safety and sex toy material education, sex positivity, sex toy positivity is totally my bag.

Lady Cheeky Chats Feminist Porn & SmutForSmarties

We're a cheeky bunch. That's why it was great to catch up with Lady Cheeky for a conversation about sex.  She posts beautiful, erotic pictures and stories across her blogs. We named her one of the 10 best sex blogs.

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What we talked about:

• How Lady got into the sex education/ sex blog world
• Why she thinks feminist porn is awesome
• What you can expect from Lady over the coming 6-12 months
• Why she uses the name, "Lady Cheeky" versus her real name & picture
• Her upcoming erotic novel on sex at 40+
• The successes that Lady has encountered so far, including changing the love lives of her readers (among her numerous other successes as a sex blogger)

About Lady Cheeky

Lady Cheeky started her erotica and sensual images blog in 2010 as a way to communicate with her faraway lover. Since then, Lady Cheeky has evolved into a place of candid self-discovery for her and her readers.

On her sister site SmutForSmarties.com, she recounts true stories about her own sexual exploration in hopes of liberating other women to do the same. Now with over 20k TUMBLR followers and over 120k hits a month, Lady Cheeky muses about being a sexually empowered, single woman over 40. With humor, candor, and without shame, Lady Cheeky is determined to have passion, intimacy and love present in her life.

Chock full of erotic photos, fiction, lessons, advice, literary quotes, sexual encounters and sometimes the occasional heartfelt lament. Lady Cheeky is an honest and relatable sex blog for the modern woman.

This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, mission-driven entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with the love of her life, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook and Google+.

Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.

Podcast w/ Shanna Katz on Consent & 3 Ways to Better Sex

We're kinda slutty on social media. We're there, chatting about sex education, couples and relationships all the time. Because, let's face it, Twitter and Facebook are kinda lovely. There are many superb sex educators passing out valuable information!

What? You're not following us on Twitter @getlusty or Facebook? Do it now. Do also follow Shanna, who's information is below!

Without further adieu, what we talked about:

• How Shanna got into sex education (hint: think acting class)
• Her 3 recommendations for your best sex life
• Communication & why it's important
• What you can learn from BDSM
• Her book on cunnilingus
• How she measures success as a sex educator

More about Shanna

In 2008, she completed her Master’s in Human Sexuality Education at Widener University in Pennsylvania. She also has her B.A. in Sociology from the Colorado College. She has been a member of AASECT; the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, and SSSS; the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and is currently certified by ACS; the American College of Sexologists, and a member of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.

Currently, she is serving on the board for The Center for Sex Positive Culture in Colorado and the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island and served as the social media chair for the AASECT Annual Conference 2011 and the SSSS Annual Conference 2011.

You can also read her monthly column Unapologetic at the Fearless Press and her bi-monthly column Body Positivity at Out Front Colorado, as well as for through publications. She provides classes, trainings, workshops and relationship counseling/sex coaching to a variety of clients in the Denver metro area and across the country.

Connect with Shanna on Twitter @shanna_katz, Facebook and her website. Also find her awesome book on Amazon or in your local book store.

Podcast! Megan Andelloux Talks Sex & Pleasure

Megan Andelloux is changing the world of sex education. Plain and simple. She speaks around the country to university students and adults on using sex to enrich their lives. That's why it was great to catch up with Megan.

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We chatted about: 

• The story behind why Megan got into sex education
• What she's up to currently & what's next for her (think introducing sexual pleasure into medicine) 
• Her rough start in Rhode Island (nearly prevented from opening up the Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health) 
• Why she supports pleasure in sex
• How she measures success as Founder & Director of the Center for Sexual Health & Pleasure

About Megan

Megan Andelloux is a certified sexologist and sexuality educator, accredited through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and The American College of Sexologists (ACS). Megan has been a sexuality educator since 1998 originally working with Planned Parenthood, later as Director of the Sexuality Learning and Resource Center and now serves as the Director of the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health (CSPH) in Pawtucket, Rhode Island. Andelloux is known for advocating that sexual pleasure is an integral part of overall sexual health, which she calls the "female pleasure principle."

Andelloux has been an invited speaker at various colleges and universities, including Boston University Medical School, Brandeis University, Clark University, Brown University, Harvard University, the Rhode Island School of Design, Tufts University and Yale University, as well as numerous other institutions such as the Center for Sex and Culture and WholeDC. She is also an author in the book We Got Issues!, a feminist response to cultural attitudes on feminism, as well as once writing for the sex worker magazine, $pread.

Learn more about megan on Twitter @hiohmegan, Subscribe on Facebook and LinkedIn.

Podcast! Melissa Jones: God Wants You to Have Great Sex

GetLusty writers are pretty liberal. That's why we were excited to get a slightly different perspective on sex. This time, we heard from Christian sex therapist, Melissa Jones. Frankly, it's refreshing to hear a Christian so vocal about couples having great sex through practice.

What we talked about:

• Scheduling sex & love (Yes! It's important)
• The four phases of [great] communication and sex
• How to use the Five Love Languages to communicate to your lover
• When Melissa uses scripture to explain to her clients: God wants you to have great sex
• Why Melissa advocates for less fake boobs and naked women on toy packaging
• What's next for Melissa, namely, creating a series of DVDs for Christian's on oral sex, orgasm and great sex without pornography

More about Melissa

Melissa Jones is a clinical sexologist and board certified sexuality educator who specializes in helping her clients improve their relationships by enhancing their sexuality and overcoming intimacy challenges. Melissa is a dynamic educator who encourages people to think differently about sexuality and the role that it plays in their relationships. Warm, engaging, and entertaining, Melissa shares her wealth of information both one-on-one and with groups of all sizes, backgrounds, and ages.

Dr. Jones is an active professional member of the American Counseling Association, the International Coach Federation, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT), and is board certified by the American College of Sexologists. She has an active sexology practice in San Antonio, Texas, where she conducts workshops and assists couples at her medical-center office. She and her husband have been married for twenty years and are the parents of three children. Learn more on Twitter @MelissaJonesPhD. Also check out her YouTube channel.

Podcast w/ Sexy Vixen & BDSM Educator Sunny Megatron

When America thinks of Midwestern, they probably don't think of women like Sunny Megatron. When she was in high school, Sunny wanted to be Dr. Ruth. Two decades, a long advertising career, and several long-term relationships later, Sunny finally decided to take the plunge. She started her life as a sex educator and has never looked back. Our Chief Lust Officer, Erica Grigg sits down with Sunny for some sexy conversation.

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What we talked about during the podcast

• Why she became a sex educator 
• When labels aren't really necessary (ie. how you don't need to be a "BDSM lover" to enjoy a little kink now and then)
• The classes she teaches across Chicago
• How she measures success in her practice
• What's in the pipeline for this sexy, educating vixen 

More about Sunny


Sunny Megatron is a pleasure advocate, sex blogger and adult sexuality educator. She teaches at public and private venues with her partner, Ken Melvoin-Berg, across the country.

Behind the scenes she’s an adult content copywriter, penning how-to’s on sensual subjects that range from the commonplace to the extreme. She also hosts Red Light District Sex Tours through Weird Chicago Tours.

Sunny is most known for her approachability and ability to present alternative sexuality topics in a way that is accessible and understandable to the mainstream.

Some Sunny Workshops 

Networking for Kinky People
BDSM 101
How to Give a World Class BlowJob
Exploring Non-Monogamy
ZAP! Electrical Play
The Female Orgasm
and Junk For Your Junk: Sex Toys 101

With the recent popularity of 50 Shades of Grey, she has been in high demand leading 50 Shades book clubs and hosting related educational events.

Find her being risque across her social media channels on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube and, of course, her website SunnyMegaton.com. Also find her event calendar here.




This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, social entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around downtown, Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with her adoring husband, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook and Google+. Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.

Podcast! Charlie Glickman's Top Ways to Give Prostate Pleasure

Ever wonder about pleasing your man's prostate? Our Chief Lust Officer, Erica Grigg, chatted with Charlie Glickman about just that. Charlie is a world renowned sex educator and expert, who has been featured across numerous media outlets. He has around 20 years of sex education experience, and it shows!

Where is your partners prostate? Check out the simple, easy-to-understand diagram of the male prostate. 

Subjects covered in the podcast:

• Why you should try prostate play with your man
• How Charlie got into sex education
• Why Charlie is passionate about teaching men about the prostate and its pleasure opportunities
• Charlie's recommendations for learning more about prostate play (including more about his upcoming book)
• Charlie's top tips for stimulating your man's prostate
• What's Charlie up to over the next several months

More about Charlie Glickman

Charlie Glickman Ph.D. is a certified sexuality educator, author, blogger, workshop presenter and an occasional university professor.

He lectures and teaches on a variety of sex topics including sex-positivity, sex & shame, gender & masculinity, and many different sexuality & relationship practices including open relationships, anal sex, prostate play, G-spot pleasure, sex toys, and BDSM. Find out more about him at www.charlieglickman.com, find him on Facebook, follow him on Twitter.

About his book, "The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure"

The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure: Erotic Exploration for Men and Their Partners is the upcoming book by Charlie Glickman and Aislinn Emirzian. They've collected all the information you need to make prostate play a fun and exciting part of your sex life. More men than ever before are discovering how much pleasure the prostate can bring them, whether they explore it solo or with a partner. Get your copy and see for yourself! (Jan 2013 release date) Their forthcoming website will be released soon so stay in touch!

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Sexpert Interview: Princess Kali, Kink Educator & Coach

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Sexpert interview: Erika Lust, Feminist Pornographer

If you're not into mainstream porn, we've got just the person for you. Erika Lust is feminist porn writer and director who has revolutionized the porn industry. Erica Grigg got a chance to ask Ms. Lust some questions about her films, and her views on love and sex.

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Since Erika Lust is one of the top, feminist pornographers, I thought she'd be way too busy to check-in with GetLusty for Couples. Not true.

This awesome, down-to-earth gal did, and she shared her thoughts on sex--very candidly. Check out more about Erika & Lust Films below!

About Erika

Erika Lust is co-founder of Lust Films, an audiovisual production company, an expert in sex culture and a journalist. She is also the author of The Erotic Bible to Europe (2010) and Love Me Like You Hate Me (2010).

In 2004 she produced and directed The Good Girl, a short explicit story for women that was well received internationally and later went on to form part of her first feature length work Five Hot Stories For Her, released in April of 2007. Five Hot Stories won Best Script at the Erotic Film Festival in Barcelona (2007), Best Film for Women at VENUS in Berlin (2007), Audience’s Honourable Mention at CineKink in New York (2008) and Best Film of the Year at the Feminist Porn Awards in Toronto (2008).
 
Erika is also the director of the erotic experimental documentary Barcelona Sex Project. Her last film is called Life Love Lust (2010).

Erika Lust was born in Stockholm (Sweden) in 1977 and she holds a bachelors degree in political science from Lund University (Sweden), with a specialization in gender studies and human rights. She currently resides in Barcelona.

#1 How did you get into porn? Do you consider yourself a feminist pornographer?

Making my way in the adult industry wasn’t a direct route: it started out when I moved to Barcelona and found work with audiovisual companies, which in turn inspired me to take film classes.

The idea of merging feminism and pornography had fascinated me since I’d read about it in college, so I leapt at the chance to make The Good Girl (a twist on the classic pizza-delivery theme), which turned out to be a hit. Since that experiment went so well, I kept writing and filming and ended up creating my own little niche in the industry. Both my films and I are certainly feminist, though I’m beginning to move away from the label ‘porn’, since I’m starting to think it’s so much more than that!

#2 Do you think you (and other feminist/ women-centric pornographers) are changing the pornography industry?

Yes, we’re definitely impacting the industry as we expand and evolve, though the mainstream porn scene is definitely the Goliath to our David.

The key has been reaching out to potential audiences who like porn (or the idea of it), but want something different from the usual athletic, formulaic, unrealistic and joyless sex featured in mainstream productions over the past three decades.

There’s been such an overwhelmingly positive response to what we’re doing and creating that there’s obviously a great demand! With this in mind, I hope that it’s just a matter of time before the majority of porn out there is more representative of what people want and how they have sex, thereby becoming ‘good porn’.

#3 What are areas you see couples most interested in, in terms of improving their sex life?

Experimentation! Sexual preferences and relationships are constantly evolving, so people will naturally want to try new things. I can’t stress enough that openness is the key here – really be honest with yourself and your partner about what interests you, and be open to their feedback in return.

What I hear from couples most are their desires to try a new toy, to watch a film together, to bring another person into the equation, to enact a role play fantasy, or try a little BDSM. People tell me that they get all kinds of ideas from my films and my stores. And those who expressed this to their partner seem to have benefitted greatly from it; new doors and experiences opened for them, and their excitement was inspiring. Experimentation can really enrich one’s sex life and bring two people closer, even if they try something that they might not ever repeat – it just shows how eager people are to please and be pleased.

#4 What keeps YOUR sex life great? Maybe you could provide 2-3 tips -- not strictly sexual -- maybe emotional, as well.

Well, as anyone with kids can tell you, having a sex life in general is difficult, and having a GREAT sex life is near impossible. There are always so many things to do and not enough time (or energy) to do them … so ‘doing it’ usually falls down the ladder of priorities.

So my first tip would be to MAKE the time – if that means putting it on your blackberry organizer or shutting off the TV early, so be it. Sex really is the glue in the relationship, and, without it, the two people drift apart. Another tip, whether single or in a relationship, would be the aforementioned experimentation: you give yourself a great gift by exploring what you like and what you don’t, and getting to know and love your body.

#5 What would you recommend for couples experiencing a lack of intimacy?

There are a few different remedies, depending on the couple and the problems they’re experiencing. If a couple is too busy and hardly ever gets ‘alone time’ – then make the time. Get a babysitter, get dressed up, have a few drinks at a snazzy place and try to recreate that feeling when you were dating and totally unencumbered (before the lazy pants, pizza nights and kids).

If you’re getting irritated with each other, spend some time alone – there’s nothing like a little separation to let you recharge, be nice to yourself, and make you realize when you miss someone and why. Finally, if there is a sex life, but it’s lackluster, be honest with each other about your needs, desires, fantasies – and try to find a way to initiate or incorporate them into the bedroom and shake things up.

#6 What's next for Lust Films?

Right now, I’ve been writing a lot, both on my blog and for various publications.

In addition, I’m concentrating on revamping my new website www.erikalust.com, store, and erotic online cinema www.lustcinema.com. As to the future, there may be another short film in the works and maybe a book – you’ll have to stay tuned and see!

Learn more about Lust Films from Erika Lust on Twitter and Facebook.


This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, social entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around downtown, Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with her adoring husband, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook and Google+. Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.

Sex interview: Camille Crimson, Pornographer & Blow Job Extraordinaire

We're downright tickled to feature Camille Crimson. We asked her a series of questions, and especially--how did you become a pornographer? Erica Grigg, our Chief Lust Officer got to know Camille recently.

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About Camille

Camille Crimson is a full time porn model and webmaster.

She makes a living from her beautiful website,  The Art of Blowjob.  She also does gorgeous, entertaining, and arousing photo/video shoots. Basically, she deals with the subversive, yet natural subject we all love: sex.

Learn more about Camille Crimson on her website. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.

How did you get into pornography?

I got into porn because my boyfriend and I were always very sexually adventurous and we had all the requisite skills needed to do the creative and technical work behind the scenes to make a website flourish.

The ability to be our own bosses and to have a project together that would make us so proud were some incredibly strong motivators and driving factors.

Why feminist pornography?

First the definition. For me, feminist porn is anything that shows genuine respect and agency about, for and/or by women in the pornographic sphere.

As a feminist, it's the only kind of porn I would make. I want to make something empowering and respectful, both for myself and for everyone else. It's an incredibly important thing for the industry to show the agency in porn.

What are challenges you see to women (and couples) having better sex?

People are afraid, so communication really breaks down. It's hard to tell someone what turns you on or makes you feel good, and it's even harder to say that you're not sure what does.

People need to find ways to open up that side of themselves to exploration with less judgment of each other. Creativity and growth only happen when you take the leap.

How have you helped others and yourself achieve great love and sex?

I think that we're able to set a great example as a loving couple who has grown and explored over time.

It's that type of commitment to slowly learning more about each other and being open to trying new things that has helped us learn how to make each other feel good, both romantically and sexually.

People who are privy to what we do are hopefully inspired to find ways to infuse their lives with that same spirit.

How is Montreal, in terms of sexual education?

Montreal is a very sexual and sensual city, but I think that every city can afford to spend more time, energy, and money on sexual education, especially for the new generations.

What projects are you looking forward to working on over the next 6-12 months?

We just launched a new website called SlowMotionBlowjob.com, which focuses on the eroticism of the blowjob in a way that really takes its time. So, adding more to that, in addition to TheArtofBlowjob.comwill be a lot, but we're also working on a few new projects that will remain under wraps for now.

Want to watch her videos? They're very seductive and offer a new, artistic perspectives on the art of giving an amazing, loving blowjob.

This is post by Erica Grigg, our Founder and Chief Lust Officer. She's a writer, marketer, social entrepreneur and sex geek. She wants to end boring sex. If you don't see Erica riding around downtown, Chicago in her beach cruiser or at a diner with her adoring husband, you see her chatting up the tech community about the importance of sex and love in marriage. Follow Erica on Twitter @ericagrigg or subscribe via Facebook and Google+. Want to connect about business partnership with a woman-run business that cares? E-mail me directly at erica@getlusty.com.